How do you grow?

Here is the five chapters of your autobiography if you’re growing…

Chapter 1: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes me forever to find a way out.

Chapter 2: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place, but it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it still there. I still fall in… it’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

Chapter 4: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Chapter 5: I walk down another street.

Autobiography in Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson

An interesting biography, the important step is in Chapter 3, the two statements…

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This book inspired me very much about the changing of mindset that we all need. This book gives us comparisons between the mindset of rich and poor people. Check my articles that are inspired from this book to see how different the mindset of the millionaires, the mindset that we all need to learn.

Do you have problem remembering the person’s name you’ve just got to know?

You might be trapped in considering that you actually have a short term memory. If you do, check out the following article from WikiHow, on How to Cope With Short Term Memory Problems. In one of the steps, paying attention, the article mentions about the reason why many of us usually forget the name of the person we’re just being introduced.

If you’ve already forgotten the name of the nice gentleman who was just introduced to you not five minutes ago, it might not be only a memory problem. Were you really listening when you were introduced, or were you thinking ahead to what to say next?

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“What should I say next?”, “what can I say to impress him/her?”, “what will he think of me?”, “I have to look confident, how should I show it?”, “what should I ask next to show that I’m interested to know her?”

Those are some of the questions that comes to our mind, while we know a person, it’s our reflect to boost our ego, to impress the other person by showing that we are interested, confident, and nice to talk to. Many forget that many people need listening ear while they are speaking. Next time you find your mind wander, remind yourself to pay attention to what the other person is saying.

One of the tips given in the article…

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How do you consider blogging?

Some people consider it as a waste of time, some people think that it’s a way to run from reality to cyberspace, but it’s not necessarily so. In fact, some people are serious about blogging and consider it as a hobby, channeling their passion and hobby on writing, or better still as a business they want to grow, business that they can run from home. Similarly, blogging is something that you can start as long as you like to learn and share information. You can even start without spending so much capital.

Particularly, personal development blogging has many benefits that I have enjoyed, it does come with a price, time and energy to do it, but you can gain much by doing it with passion and persistence. I have not tasted the returns in terms of money but I do have tasted the benefit in terms of personal development and growth.

In this post, I will distribute the seven benefits of blogging into two areas, blogging as a hobby, and blogging as a business. Both will help you to your personal growth.

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Do you blog? If you do, has blogging made a better you?

It changes me a lot, even more as I blog on personal development, the points and principles that help me to be a better person and a successful introvert.

How do you know that you have become a better person?

I don’t have any problems relating to people. Really. It’s true. I don’t ever get irritated or upset with anyone: as long as I’m alone. It’s amazing just how easy life is when I’m alone and isolated. The worst in me can lie dormant for years as long as there’s no one around to awaken the sleeping giants inside of me.

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The answer is relationship!

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How can you make an impact in this world?

Being extraordinary doesn’t mean that we stay idle and passive. I have posted before the reasons why you are no ordinary! that each of us have successful story, has something to teach to others. It’s the responsible of being ordinary, as what being quoted in Spiderman movie.

With great power comes great responsibility.

Spiderman

Being extraordinary comes with greater responsibility, it’s the responsibility for you to give back to the society, in whatever profession you’re in. Extraordinary person makes impact to the world. It’s no excuse not to start right now, because you can even start by being an agent of change right now, impacting or influencing a person one at a time, from where you are right now.

This post is about how you can make an impact, one person at a time, how you can give input or feedback for him/her to learn and grow becoming a better person.

It’s something you need to do when you are extraordinary.

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Book on managing the performance of your subordinates, very useful guide for managers to do performance assessment on their staffs. One statement that struck me is that we should evaluating based on behavior and not based on attitude. Be objective and not subjective in evaluating your staffs. Check my articles on my summary on the book!

Don’t you want to become an attractive and interesting person? Someone that is full of charisma, likeable, interesting to be with, to converse with and so on.

The inspiration came from the book I recently read, “How to find your one true love” by Bo Sanchez, a Catholic speaker and writer from Philippine, the book is about finding your true date, and inside, he emphasized on the importance of us being in charge in the searching process, getting to know more of opposite sex friends and becoming an attractive person.

Many introverts consider themselves as not an attractive person, but reading the book, I’m much inspired that there are many ways to be an attractive person. The book does mention about becoming attractive physically, take note of the fashion or make up you wear, how you smile and show others that you’re open for them to approach or getting to know you. From all the ways mentioned, particularly there is one important point about being attractive and interesting that tickles me.

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It’s great to be extraordinary, yet moving from ordinary to extraordinary will also require greater efforts. It does require us to change our mindset, change our behaviour and actions, habits and eventually it will change our character and destiny.

In any case, there is a very important point of being extraordinary… it is taking responsibility of your own life, behaviours and actions.

Robin Sharma, a leadership guru, has his podcast titled “Everyone’s A Leader”, where he mentioned that we all are leader, every single one of us, in spite of our positions and duties. On the first point explaining the ‘why’, he mentioned about APR: Absolute Personal Responsibility, an important point that every one of us must have and must take to be an extraordinary leader.

Many run away from their personal responsibility, from their life and duties assigned to them, by giving one popular word… EXCUSE

Excuse based on Oxford Dictionary…

A reason, either true or invented, that you give to explain or defend your behaviour.

Oxford Dictionary

Excuse is a mistake when it’s purposely invented as a way to defend our behaviour, we may need to give explanation, it is necessary but makes it in such a way that you’re responsible for your own actions.

Here are the excuses we often make in our life, excuses we need to stop…

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Interview is always meant for selling ourselves and impressing our interviewer. However, this mindset will easily make us fall into the trap of being in-authentic. Many times we may feel that we’re intimidated in the process, and we just continue on answering YES or agreeing to all what is expected from us.

Here is what I’ve read from the book from Jack Welch titled “Winning” on hiring the right person…

At some point in the interview process… make sure you exaggerate the challenge of the open job; describe it on its worst day –hard, contentious, political, full of uncertainty. As you crank it up, see if the candidate keeps saying “Yes, yes, yes!” If he does, you should worry that he has few other options, if any. You may even be his sole hope of employment.

Jack Welch

What we often miss out is the importance of the authenticity, here is what Jack Welch mentioned about the right person to be hired…

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