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Thanks for everyone that has commented. Really appreciate them.
Cheers,
Robert

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My personal take on confidence is that nobody can be absolutely confident in all areas of life. We can usually find confidence in areas that resonate with our core values, for example some people are fantastic cooks but put them on a marketing project team and they could turn into the most insecure person on earth. What’s important is that we don’t beat ourselves up or belittle ourselves when we feel “misplaced”. Everyone is an expert in something and if we can recognise that, we can acknowledge our “lack” with more ease. Of course this does not mean we shouldn’t learn or try to progress in the areas that we’re lacking in … I just find that during this transition period while we progress from “lack” to “expert”, sincerity can help to eliminate some of the discomfort. Perhaps it’s humility, or just simply an acknowledgement that “I’m sorry I really don’t know much about xxx, but I’m very keen to hear about your insights on this topic” could make things easier for ourselves as well as the people we interact or learn from. Our openness to admit our lack and show our sincerity can sometimes trigger others to open up too, and in turn they could even share more of their knowledge with us.
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Having seen the root it may be possible to then do some ‘faking’ as a way of getting the new way of being to be part of you. I wouldn’t call it faking though – more trying out new stuff. Faking it for me has the feeling of being sure about what works (this is usually unlikely I think).

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1) Obviously, it is best if you have no need to fake it. That is the ideal. And to get to this state, getting down to the root and building yourself up authentically and wholly is the way to go.
2) “Faking” as in adapting some habits, such as dressing for success, adapting a good posture, looking someone in the eyes — can have a great impact on #1 actually, as what we do can greatly shape how we feel, not just the other way around. So in this sense, this is useful.
3) “Faking” because you are insecure to face the truth is detrimental. This will continue the lie that’s covering up why you are not confident.
4) There are situations where you have to do things you have never done before. As others pointed out, it’s hard to have confidence in this situation. As in #3, it’s not useful to overly boost yourself up just to cover up your insecurities. However, even when you face your insecurities, that’s still not a reason to act insecurely, as that only reinforces it. This is where you want to adapt habits and behaviors of success, because that’s what you want to reinforce. Don’t lie, but act as if you are already a success anyway.

So from the outside, it would appear that either way the course of the action is the same. But inside, I think there’s a big difference. The difference is that one scenario will help build a true confidence, and the other will have the opposite effect.

ari

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