How I lose faith in blogging (and get it back again)

Jul 26, 2008 by

I don’t have any problems relating to people. Really. It’s true. I don’t ever get irritated or upset with anyone: as long as I’m alone. It’s amazing just how easy life is when I’m alone and isolated. The worst in me can lie dormant for years as long as there’s no one around to awaken the sleeping giants inside of me.

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The sleeping giant inside me is awakened. At least it is one lesson that I can bring back from my holiday with my parents and relatives.

The quote above came true during my holiday. Being single and living alone overseas, away from my parents and family, it’s a “privilege” for me to manage my own pace and activity. On the other hand, family holiday offered me a different experience, a journey with others is always slower and more demanding, partly caused by conflict of interest and misunderstanding.

No matter how much you think you have grown, it doesn’t matter unless you relate with people.

Doing is not the same as writing

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I blog and I write, and for that I read a lot and I learn. Is learning enough? Unfortunately, it’s not. There are so many mistakes we can make while we are learning. My previous article shares the 4 mistakes that you can make on learning, and now I’m going to share one more trap of learning. It’s learning for sharing! It’s not entirely wrong, it’s a wonderful purpose, but it’s simply a fake to stop there.

Things that you learn does not stop until you write it! Do you still remember that quote you have shared? Great if you do, isn’t that the one which makes the article completes, the story ends well with the quote, it made up the list and it was a great piece. But more importantly, have you made some changes? Do you start doing it? Not once or twice, but how about making it a habit? Not when you are all alone, how about when you are with people? Difficult people?

Tough questions, aren’t they? But those are the questions that we bloggers, even more as personal development bloggers, need to ask ourselves and ponder. Those are the questions that made me lose faith in blogging. How difficult it seems to make the changes, while it’s so easy writing it.

Your turn: Does blogging make you a better person? Please share your thoughts in the comments. Meanwhile, I wanted to share how I find a purpose in blogging again.

Back to the very reason I blog

Why do I blog? That question came up again. Without purpose and vision, I’m simply wandering around and wasting my time. If you are a blogger, ask yourself why do you blog. Is it simply writing one article after another, is it simply about increasing your subscribers/readerships? Or maybe increasing the number of comments and responses in your blog? How about making money, personal branding and popularity?

Reflecting to the past, this blog is mainly for my own positive journaling. How selfish it may seem, it’s the basic intention of why I started blogging: Its main purpose is actually to reflect on the things that I learn, remember them better, and remind me to keep on doing it.

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Why a blog instead of a journal? I started a journal before, and it ended up into a diary, a journal of mostly how I feel on the day. Most are useless statement similar to the image on the right. This article would have been an article complaining of what a failure I have made if I was journaling.

On the other hand, blogging forced me to write better, because it’s not only for me, but also for others to read. Blogging helped me to transform the mistakes and failures I made into a lesson to learn. There has to be some lesson I can learn from, and from which I can grow and become better. That’s what I want to share with you through this blog.

Your turn: What’s the deeper reason on why you blog? Please share it in the comments.

The art of encouraging yourself

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.
– Zig Ziglar

Motivating yourself is pictured by Zig as bathing. First question: do you bathe daily? If you do, then please also learn and motivate yourself daily. Getting dirty and failing does not mean that you stop bathe anymore. It shows you that you need to bathe cleaner, learn a better way, and motivate yourself again to do it.

Second question: do you ask another person to bathe you? If you don’t, then please also learn to make the initiatives to motivate yourself. Ponder on the success you have achieved, blessings you have received. Reflect on how far you have changed and grown, not always on how far you still need to go.

Joel Osteen suggested that each of us should keep a collection of what others have commended us positively. It can be a gift, a letter or even an email or short notice. Reading them back can boost your encouragement.

What if you don’t have one? Then write yourself a little note, thank yourself a thank you note, how you have changed and grown to become who you are right now. The fact that you are willing to read until the end of this article itself is a proof that you want to grow! And I applause you for that!

Living a victorious life requires our capability to keep us always encouraged. While we should encourage people the best that we can, our own motivation should not depend on other people to affirm. It does not matter how many people dislike you or discourage you, you will have the motivation to learn and grow if you like yourself and able to motivate yourself. It’s something important and we need to do it daily.

I have promised you earlier that I’m going to do a re-branding exercise. It’s still in progress, but one hint, it will have to do with encouragement. It will be a niche I want to focus on. I want this blog to be a very encouraging blog, just like its title, helping you to find reasons to smile!

Here is a quote that I want to end this article with; thanks to Shilpan from Success Soul (you can check his article in the resources below).

My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.
– Abraham Lincoln, (1809-1865) President of the United States

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23 Comments

  1. Very inspirational! It’s a matter of growth and life that you’re constantly evaluating and reevaluating your goals and objectives for blogging. They morph and can change over time. It’s just about being aware of them – how does blogging serve you and how can you serve others by blogging – so you can avoid burnout. I’ve found when I wasn’t true to myself, I became depressed by my blogging efforts and had to stop for awhile. After taking a break, I set new goals, and moved forward.

    Anne-Maries last blog post..It’s all about big, hairy dudes

  2. This is a very thought provoking post and very well written. That sums up why anyone blogs. In a diary or journal, you can afford to be sloppy. In a blog you are hoping that someone will read it and perhaps even comment on it to move you on your life’s journey. I blog because, I want to put something up for others to read for posterity. Perhaps my shot at immortality!

  3. Robert A.

    @Anne-Marie, thanks for sharing your story. I believe that it’s important for us bloggers to stay true to ourselves and our readers.

    @Nicole, thanks for the comment! I just read your about page, and great to see how you transform your hobby on saving while spending into information sharing =). That’s interesting!

    All the best with your blogs!
    Cheers,
    Robert

  4. Hey Robert! Glad to hear that your back from your holidays. 🙂

    Ahh. The reason why I blog is cos’ I share the things that I personally do in life in words. And if there are people who will take on the same mission or subscribe to the blog that we are on, then that would be a super good bonus.

    I hear some encouragement stuffs coming up ey. Hehe. Keep us informed!

    Daniel

  5. Hi Robert,

    It’s great to hear that you’re on your way to successfully redefining your purpose with blogging.

    When I started blogging last year, I didn’t quite know what I was getting into. My blog evolved over time, and I think I evolved with it.

    I really like your phrase, “No matter how much you think you have grown, it doesn’t matter unless you relate with people.”

    Al at 7Ps last blog post..What’s the Best Way to Start the Day?

  6. Welcome back!

    Journal writing was my best friend for years, but I forced myself to stop doing it because I wanted to write some finished pieces. The idea of trying to fit them into what publishers were looking for didn’t turn me on, and I wanted to have some pictures or illustrations because I’m primarily a visual thinker. Once I discovered blogging it all fit together. I have two blogs and am committed to writing a post on each once a week. I’ve been doing it for more than a year now and, barring some unforeseen crisis, will do it for at least another year. It’s an experiment in becoming more articulate and hopefully connecting with other people.

    Great post! Thanks.

    Jean Browman–Cheerful Monks last blog post..Learning to Swim

  7. This is by far one of your best written and most interesting posts, Robert. Great job, and nice quotes!

  8. Thought provoking post. My blog is fairly young and I enjoy reflecting and the sense of community that blogging can bring – these are not the deeper reasons though.

    I am still working out in my own mind what my deeper reasons are for blogging. I suppose my deeper reasons are about genuiely wanting to help challenge people’s thinking and give people encouragement to step out of their comfort zone. Every person is potentially capable of achieving amazing things in their life and I would like to think that over time my articles will help to challenge and inspire people to put their thoughts into action and realise their potential.

    Leanne Magraiths last blog post..Inspirational People – Jared Horomona

  9. Hi Robert, it’s good to have you back. 🙂 Looks like your vacation made you a better man!

    I blog about things that work for me, and if there are folks out there who resonate with my experiences or thoughts, great! I also write to organize my random thoughts and to keep in touch with some of my friends and clients.

    There’s a whole lot of theory out there on blogosphere … great thoughts do not mean anything until we’ve taken those theories and put them into practice in real life. Only then can we truly decide for ourselves if these are just nice theories, or great practices.

    Thanks for sharing this. 🙂

    Irene | Light Beckonss last blog post..Ask Why

  10. Robert A.

    Hi all,
    Thanks for sharing your blogging purpose and story. It’s so great to see that we all have something in common, sharing our thoughts to the world, and make it a better place, while also evolving ourselves.

    Alex, thanks for the motivating message. Glad you enjoy the article.
    And Leanne, welcome to this blog! Let me know if you need any help by contacting me! Keep in touch!

    Cheers and keep on writing!
    Robert

  11. Blogging has helped me crystalize my thoughts better. I share what I’ve learned. I also recommend what techniques have helped in my self growth. Making money through affiliate links is not as important to me as having impacted lives.

    Blogging has certainly made me a better person. It gives me every opportunity to practice what I hope to exemplify. It offers a window for me to reach out to the world, from my PC here.

    Evelyn

    Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Maps last blog post..How To Do Pendulum Dowsing

  12. Blogging helps to drive the knowledge that I have learned deep into me.

    I start my blog with the intention to enhance people’s lives as a way to give back to the society. However, in the end, I find myself benefit from it the most.

    What you give is what you get. 🙂

    Raymond Chuas last blog post..The Biggest Lie

  13. Robert,
    I’d like to hear more about what skills you want to learn in dealing with your family. I’ve taught many classes in Dealing With Difficult People, and I agree, reading, talking and writing is not the same as developing skills. So what are you working on? Please share. Thanks.

    Jean Browman–Transforming Stresss last blog post..Training Our Inner Nut

  14. Lim Chih-Yang

    honest and heartfelt…

    I love the quote by Ziglar and had kept it as a postit on my laptop desktop….

    reminds me that motivation can aid in the purpose of the “Why” we do things.. 😀

  15. You’ve inspired me to write next Sunday’s post at Transforming Stress on how reading and writing isn’t enough for skill development. Do you mind me linking to this post and using you as an example? If you’d prefer I could just say “a friend”.

    Thanks.

    Jean Browman–Transforming Stresss last blog post..Commitment and Practice

  16. Robert A.

    Hi Jean, i’m alright about using my name, I shared that in blogosphere, so I don’t mind being known. A way to share what I learn to others, and thank you for your offer on helping me. I’ll send you email later on the day.

    Btw, I can’t see anything on the link you gave me, I guess if it’s not posted, only the author can see the draft. I don’t see a need to see it, but if you see a need, you can send it to my email.

    Cheers,
    Robert

  17. anthony

    Your question: Does blogging make you a better person?

    i can answer now. blogging can make us a better person if we read the articles inside, we realise that is useful, and the most important is we implement it into our acts every moment. do you agree with that? every transformation of ours is from ourselves..

    blogging, yeah, we will get more improvement in writing,reading, responding, understanding,etc. so, maybe it can help us to be a better person in personality. including me.hehehe

    so..keep blogging…hahaha

  18. Perhaps, a good way for self improvement is to write after experience. You don’t need to think if you’re actually doing what you write. Plus, people can comment if the application fits the concepts. Sort of making your life an open source project.

    koalas last blog post..Cooking Chronicles 7: Soto

  19. Robert A.

    @Evelyn, Raymond
    Thanks for sharing your blogging purpose. Impacting with any little steps we’re in, any article we’re writing, as you said, the blessing will actually come back to us.

    @Chih Yang,
    Thanks for the dinner tonite =), glad to know that you are blessed with Zig’s quote

    @Anthony,
    thanks for your message, I’m waiting for your blog to be published =)

    @Koala,
    LOL, u’re studying IT too much, u know. My life as an open source project… that sounds interesting… that might be true, that might be what I’m doing with my blog now… LOL

    Thanks everyone,
    Robert

  20. Does blogging make me a better person? Without a doubt it has. I like this line of inquiry because then it causes me to ponder how has it made me a better person? It certainly has brought greater imagination and discipline to my life. It has caused me to examine trails of thought that I would not have examined just for myself.

    Thanks for this, I was honored to stumble it.

    Tom Volkar / Delightful Works last blog post..What’s Really Possible?

  21. Robert A.

    Hi Tom, thanks for the stumble. Really happy to see how blogging has made a better you. Wish you the best!
    Cheers,
    Robert

  22. Nice post.

    Your blog is unique, it’s nice. If you don’t mind, would you like to xchge links with me?

    Thank you

    Drunken Dragons last blog post..India Picture, Great India Photos

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