Five reasons why you need networking break

Apr 20, 2008 by

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HELP! Are you feeling tired of networking?

Network, network and network! Your career needs networking, your business needs networking, your daily social life needs networking, and finding your life partner also needs networking. When should you take a break from networking?

Yesterday, my very first guest post has just published. It is titled “The Trap of Networking” and it is posted in Jason Jacobsohn’s blog: NetworkingInsight.com. It also talks about networking, but the trap that it might have. What I am emphasizing there is networking with the focus on the result and not the activity. It’s not the issue of how many people you’ve got to know or how many networking event you have attended. It’s the matter of how many win-win relationship you have formed. Check out the article to know what the trap is.

While some suggested practicing networking to become better at it, I find that taking a break from networking is equally important. And even more, it’s actually advantageous to your networking. Let’s find out why:

1) For the introverts, it is the recharging time

Introverts are like a rechargeable battery… extroverts are like solar panels.
~Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D

Extroverts are like solar panels, they recharge their energy while being with people. They need to be out and about, talking with someone to feel fulfilled and energized. On the other hand, introverts seem to have limitation here, they need their alone time to recharge. While practicing to network is important, you need the energy to network effectively.

My tips are not to say “YES!” to the entire networking event that you have opportunity to attend. Pick your networking event selectively and take some time to recharge your battery.

One question may come to your mind, “Why should you limit yourself? Why don’t you believe that you have enough energy to all networking?
My next point will give you the answer…

2) Strategy to have enjoyable networking time

What is the most important skill in the world?

The illiterate of the 21st century will not those who cannot read and write but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.
~Alvin Toffler

It’s learning, Dr. Henry Cloud in his book Changes That Heal has even said that if someone has the opportunity to learn that they can learn, the rest of life is a cinch.

And what is the best way to learn?

The answer is enjoyment in learning. Similarly for networking, you will have opportunity to learn much more about them when you enjoy your networking. It is important to rest when you need it. Replenish your energy when you need it, so that you will eventually be able to enjoy the experience, give the best of you during the networking.

3) Time to analyze and learn from your networking experience

Because introverts often have to work on relating to people, they often end up better at it than extraverts.
~Evan Hadkins (WellBeingAndHealth.net) commenting at “The Introvert’s Way to Networking

Introverts are intuitive and analytical. Use that skill. What is working? What isn’t? Where do you get the most bangs for your buck?
~Rob May (How to Network: For Introverts)

Both of them shared the same point, introverts can become a better networking expert than an extrovert. What’s the secret that every one of us can learn from?

First, it is the hungriness to become better at networking. Their limitation makes them hungry to learn more on how to network better. The passion to learn might become an advantage for them.

Second, it is their analytical skill. Analytical skill helps them to learn what works and what doesn’t work on networking. With better sensitivity, they are able to identify how to deal and communicate effectively with any particular individual.

The main point is improving, take some time to reflect and analyze on the networking experience we have got.

4) Time to craft your attractive stories

We are all unique in our own special ways, and if you are prepared to take the time to think about your qualities you will come up with something.
~Peter Clemens (How to Sharpen Your Networking Skill)

The statement above is quoted from Peter on one of his networking tips. The tips state the importance of crafting our own story before the networking event. More than just any story, that is a unique story that can catch the interest of the people you meet.

Both Peter and I share the same belief that we all have unique story. That’s un-doubtable, but will our uniqueness attract the right people we want to attract? That’s another story.

You need to work on your dream and vision to develop your unique and attractive story. Great dreams involve people, but usually great dream begins with a single person. Dr. Henry Cloud even shared in his book, Changes That Heal, that a person who want to do great things in his/her life must be ready and even secure with being alone.

Eventually, this is how your success will be beneficial on your networking. Success attracts success; work on your success to attract other successful people in your life as well. That is the power of networking.

5) Time to work on your existing relationship

We need to open our eyes; new relationship does not always the answer to your success need. The answer may lie on the people that you have known. Any relationship needs cultivation, and cultivation needs time. We need to value the existing relationship, and those might be the potential from which you will have a valuable relationship.

How do you know that you have maximized your existing relationship?

My guest article, The Trap of Networking has the answer. Over there I shared some questions and tips to ensure that you have maximized the existing relationship that you’ve got.

Concluding thought

Here they are! You’ve got the five reasons why it is okay for you to have a break from networking, and even more using your tiredness on networking into advantages. Again, I want to reiterate the point, networking with the result in mind, and not the activity.

Any thoughts or comments? Please share them with us. I will publish interesting comments in my subsequent articles.

For our success,
Robert

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5 Comments

  1. Hi Robert,

    I am an extrovert kind of person. 🙂

    “Success attracts success; work on your success to attract other successful people in your life as well. That is the power of networking.”

    That’s a part of the Law of Attraction too. 🙂

    Raymond Chua’s last blog post..Elephant Can Draw Too

  2. Robert A.

    Hi Raymond, wow, glad to know that even an extrovert do enjoy reading my articles. Yup,
    I guess so, we are usually together with the people of the same mind.

    Thanks for commenting,
    Robert

  3. Hi Robert,

    Very interesting perspective about networking. I never thought about it in this context. I believe that relationship building if done right automatically becomes a part of your daily activities. It almost becomes second nature for you to continuously connect with others. So, I don’t usually take a break from networking. However, taking “breaks” for me are when I don’t attend as many events, which means that I am taking a “break” from meeting new people.

    Jason Jacobsohn’s last blog post..Personal Branding Magazine Issue 4: Free Sample

  4. Robert A.

    Hi Jason, thanks for your message. Yeah, maybe the answer is the small things… if we can appreciate the small things and give small things like short encouragement, thank you notes, etc… that is relatively easy and make us keep on connected to people.
    Thanks a lot for a different perspective, networking doesn’t seem to be as difficult as it sounds =)

    Cheers,
    Robert

  5. Hi Robert,

    Thanks for mention. Hope you’re having a great day – and aren’t too busy networking.

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