The three steps of being extraordinary

Feb 18, 2008 by


Have you read the past three insights I have shared on being extraordinary?

The three articles are the mindsets you need to have on being extraordinary. This article instead, will give you more insights on the bigger picture of how the three pieces relate together.

I was not planning for those three insights to be connected; I was just sharing based on the book that I have randomly read at that point of time. It is only after I share the articles that I see they are connected into a bigger picture.

It is truly the journey of being extraordinary, the journey that starts from attitude to responsibility, from helping yourself to helping others.

1. The attitude…

That was the first article I wrote, The five reasons why you are no ordinary. It is your mindset and attitude, the belief that you are no ordinary. If Michelle is here, I’m sure that she will tell you that you have a divine purpose. Everyone has one, and here is a nice interview in her site that even an atheist also have a divine purpose, you’re here in this world for something big…

If you are not too hard on yourself, you can easily find some of your own successful story and experience. Believe that you have something to teach, something that others can learn from. That is how you can start accepting the fact that you are no ordinary.

It does not mean that you are perfect or naively believe that you are perfect, in fact you must think that you are wrong, you have to keep on learning to be an extraordinary person. It only means that you start accepting who you are, not ashamed of your weaknesses and strengths, while growing. It’s your first step of change, and it is your first step in becoming a better you.

Be what you are.
This is the first step toward becoming better than you are.

Julius Charles Hare

2. The responsibility for yourself…

That was the second article I have written, Being extraordinary: Excuses you need to stop!

Here is a journey of growth I would like to share again, quoted from Portia Nelson that I read on DNA of Success by Jack M. Zufelt…


Chapter 1: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes me forever to find a way out.

Chapter 2: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place, but it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it still there. I still fall in… it’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

Chapter 4: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Chapter 5: I walk down another street.

Autobiography in Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson

You can see that the turning point is in the chapter 3 of the story. At that point, he still falls, but something change, he is aware of his mistake and he takes responsibility over it. He thinks that it is his fault and it’s his to fix it. We are all extraordinary when we are willing to take on responsibilities, not making excuses nor blaming others.

3. The responsibility for others…

And here is the third article, Being extraordinary: Being an agent of change

Jack Welch on his book, Winning, shared an inspiring quote on leadership…

Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself.
When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.

Jack Welch

Your extraordinary journey does not stop at the point when it is all about you. It’s OK while you are not a leader, but it is more than that to be extraordinary! You need to grow others. That’s the main message on my third article, how you can become an agent of change. The article shares the strategy and preparation that you need to have, how you plan to ensure that the other person is willingly grow. Do you have to wait to become a manager or business owner to do it? The answer is NO! You can start by becoming an agent of change wherever you are; you can start giving input or feedback to people around you, friend or relatives. You can start to change one person at a time.

A testimony…

I’m robbed!!!… My article on EzineArticle performs much better that my article on my site… that’s the Eight Reasons Why Introvert is OK! The number of visits on that page has grown so much, more than 16,000 visits and the StumbleUpon review on the article was amazing, there are 5 pages of review, much more than the reviews on my site. Besides all the good, there have been some reviews mentioning the bad, my poor grammar or poor content. And that makes me smile ^_^.

I am so glad that I am not waiting for my grammar to be perfect before I started sharing! Otherwise, I would have missed out the people that have read and blessed by my article, I would have missed out the review of 75% reviewers that like my article.

One important point: When you shine, some of the people will not like it. You can’t make everyone to like you and some will criticize you. In fact, you should be happy if there is criticism, because changes will make some people uncomfortable, criticism is a sign that you have become an agent of change.

Another important point: Not all criticism is bad, some are good and constructive. Those are the ones that point on your mistake objectively, not generalizing nor exaggerating. That’s the feedback that you need, and feedback will make you learn and grow better. Similarly, the grammar feedback is what I need, English is my second language, and I have a long way to go to improve my grammar.

Similarly, I hope that you will start to shine right now with whatever you have, instead of keep on preparing and waiting for perfection. You can start being extraordinary while you are growing.

Please do share your thoughts on becoming an extraordinary person… I’m looking forward to listen to your thoughts.

For your success,

(photo by docman)

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  1. Thank you so much for mentioning my article. It’s true, everyone has a Divine Purpose…
    ……Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself.
    When you become a leader, success is all about growing others….

    I love that quote.. Keep up the great articles Robert,

  2. Robert A.

    Hi Michelle, you’re welcome, you have a great article and great blog, I would love to link to your articles more.
    Thanks for the comment!
    Appreciate it!

  3. I think this is a great article. It really shows the evolution of conscious and that the more you grow, the more you start expanding. You go from ego-centric, to ethno-centric to world-centric. Thank you for your insights Robert.

    I invite you to take a look at my (new) blog and let me know what you think. – Authenticity, Clarity, Balance

  4. Hi Robert,

    I too have been recently writing about the importance of our attitude and also the importance of accepting 100% responsibility for our lives so I couldn’t agree more.

    As Lewis L. Dunnington said

    “Your living is determined not so much by what life brings you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”

    Accepting responsibility for our lives simply puts us in the driving seat of our lives. As I wrote in one of my articles, if we owned a posh car we wouldn’t readily hand over its keys to just anyone. Yet, we all too often hand over the keys to our life by not accepting responsibility for our lives.

    Here’s to living extraordinary lives!


  5. Robert A.

    Hi Jonathan,
    Thanks for your comment. You’re right, the more you grow, the bigger your responsibility, the more you have to grow the people around you, and eventually you might even think about you can contribute to the whole world, as what you said.
    Have a big dream, but let’s live our day as if it’s our last day!


  6. Robert A.

    Hi Nickolove,
    Welcome to Reason-4-Smile Weblog.
    Thanks for the quote… and some snippets of your article, You have a great article there, and this quote was so true.

    “We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails.”

    Cheers for our extraordinary lives!

  7. Hai Robert I have just started working as students counsellor.And my workshop topic this time is going to be Being extraordinary with your friends comeover.And Autobiography in Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson was the best part of your article I am going to use it in my workshop.


  8. Robert A Henru

    Hi Dipika.. sure no problem… the credit goes to Portia Nelson.

    All the best for your workshop!

  9. Definitely agree with what you stated. Your explanation was certainly the easiest to understand. I tell you, I generally get irked when folks discuss issues that they plainly don’t know about. You managed to strike the nail correct on the head and explained out everything without complication. Perhaps, individuals can take a signal. Will most likely be back to get more. Thanks

  10. darshan

    i hv lots of learn from here n i know dat i will tak it on my self to become an exra ordinary person..cozz i have been chalenge my self dat 1 day i ll do smthng…i realyyyyyy lov to read above statussssssssssssssssssssssssssss………..


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