Welcoming aging with smile

Dec 28, 2007 by

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Do you have dream?

Is your dream big enough?

What have you done this year for achieving your dream? Anything to be thankful for? Any regrets for the time you have wasted?

One more year is going to be over, and another year is coming. It’s going to be a time of reflection, time of excitement and celebration, and time of setting some more goal in the new year. But will you also be celebrating the fact that in the new year you’re getting older and you’re aging?

Pursuing a dream is not easy, many ups and downs, yet we need to have persistence. In any time of the year what we need to be reminded of our dream and keep growing, keep ticking. It’s what Albert Einstein said…

It’s not that I am so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.

Albert Einstein

On growing, Dr. Henry Cloud shares three ingredients of growth in his book,Changes That Heal: How to Understand the Past to Ensure a Healthier Future. These are the three…

Grace, it’s serenity, it’s God’s grace in spite of our weaknesses, it’s about forgiving ourselves, enjoying your blunder, and even laugh over our mistake…
Truth, it’s courage, knowing the truth reveals what we need to change, getting into the corridor and taking step to change, to pursue our dream…

And the third ingredient of growth is…

Time

Time is necessary for our growth. Henry Cloud quoted the Jesus’s parable in Bible, book of Luke 13:6-9, when He’s talking about the barren fig tree…

Leave it alone for one more year, and I’ll dig around it and fertilize it. If it bears fruit next year, fine! If not, then cut it down.

Jesus Christ

Similar to the tree owner, we want growth quickly, but there is no such thing as instant changes and instant fulfillment of our dream. We need time for our growth!

The coming new year, we are all going to be aging, each of us will be given an additional year in our age! It’s fair and the same for everyone, but how we live our life, how we live our aging is the difference!

Recently I read a book by Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life’s Greatest Lesson, teaching me a very good lessons of aging, from an old professor, Morrie Schwartz, on his final course, DYING. Here is what I learned from him about aging.

Aging is our friend to grow

If you’re always battling against getting older, you’re always going to be unhappy, because it will happen anyhow.

 

Morrie Schwartz

Don’t battle against aging, make it your friend, make every day an opportunity to be the best you can be that day, to be the happiest day of your life.

Aging is not an excuse to look back

Being older, we might be envious of others that are younger, we wish that we can be young again, and wanna hear what Morrie said about wishing to turn back the time…

You know what it reflects? Unsatisfied lives, unfulfilled lives. Lives that haven’t found meaning. Because if you’ve found meaning in your life, you do not want to go back. You want to go forward. You want to see more, do more. You can’t wait until sixty-five.

Morrie Schwartz

Aging is a step closer to our dream

If you stayed at twenty-two, you’d always be as ignorant as you were at twenty-two. Aging is not just decay, you know, it’s growth.

Morrie Schwartz

When we are growing, we should embrace aging, because we are becoming better and it’s a step closer to our dream! It’s a step closer to the time we can taste the fruit of our labor, the dream’s fulfillment.

Aging means dying to live better life

Morrie was dying when he’s saying this…

Learn how to die, and you learn how to live …… It’s more than the negative that you’re going to die, it’s also the positive that you understand you’re going to die, and that you live a better life because of it.

Morrie Schwartz

In conclusion

I’d like to share the following quote from James Dean

Dream as if you will live forever, Live as if you will die tomorrow!

James Dean

Aging should not be a limitation to our dream, dream big as if it will take all of our life to achieve it. Don’t battle aging, make aging into our friend in growing, aging is the time given to us to grow, to live our life fullest and achieving our dream.

BUT aging itself is not enough, for growing we need aging + grace + truth, or aging + serenity + courage. That’s living your life fully, living your life without regret, living your life as if you’re going to die tomorrow.

So let us welcome our friend that is coming, year 2008, our aging for another year, with smile :)

Happy New Year everyone!

Robert

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7 Comments

  1. What a beautiful perspective on ageing!

    They say that age gives you the beauty that you deserve, because it shows your true character.

  2. A subject not discussed often with a fantastic view. Thanks for the great quotes and thoughts. I love the New Year!

  3. Robert A.

    @Kitty: thanks for the quote,
    aging does show our true character, if our character grow as we age it will shine more through us.

    @Cindy: thanks for the comment, let’s welcome New Year with great expectation.

    Happy New Year for both of you!

  4. Shirley McLean says that getting old is about love.

    I think that’s true. I find myself less judgemental and more people oriented as I get older – I value the people in my life more.

    Everything seemed so normal/will go on for ever when I was younger, now I see how fleeting it all is.

    Once night I phoned someone who had been my best friend about 20+ years ago. She moved away. It was really late but was one of those things – I found her number on a website by fluke and called.

    She was apologizing for something and I said none of it matters now – and it really doesn’t. I’m just happy to look back and to have had the experience of her friendship, she is a very interesting person!

    I am finding as I get older that all that matters is the love we give and receive and making sure to take the time to remember this. Everything else falls away sooner or later.

    I’ve seen the book Tuesday’s With Morrie around but have never picked it up, I will make a point of it. It looks excellent.

    Your article makes some very good points that I will try to remember. I agree also that life is now, to focus anywhere else is giving our life away.

    I have found that the best seems to come out of us when we are around death – epitaphs are some of the best writing.

  5. Robert A.

    Hi Jan, thanks for sharing your story, I’m really touched by your story. I’d like to grow old the same way, looking forward to the future with smile, value more people that I have met and connected with in my life.

    I do recommend the book, Tuesdays with Morrie, it’s really about attitude, how a person who is dying can still have a purpose until the end, attitude to look for the good things he had in his life instead of his dying condition.

    Glad that this article can inspire you to live more fulfilled and enjoyable life.
    Hope you’re closer to your dream this year

    Wish you well,
    Robert

  6. One of the most thought provoking articles on aging I have stumbled upon so far. I am currently looking back at my life as I have always done in a blog I have just started. I look back not to wish I could turn back the clock but to better understand how I could move the clock of my life onward in a way that is more meaningful.

    GrandmaJulia’s last blog post..Unleashed For Me

  7. Robert A.

    Hi Grandma Julia, thanks! For a 90 years old grandma to blog, that is amazing. I believe I will need to learn more of aging from you. Thanks for enjoying my article and sharing your thought. I believe through your blog you have touched many lives and in a way makes your life much more meaningful.

    Cheers,
    Robert

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