Welcoming aging with smile
Do you have dream?
Is your dream big enough?
What have you done this year for achieving your dream? Anything to be thankful for? Any regrets for the time you have wasted?
One more year is going to be over, and another year is coming. It’s going to be a time of reflection, time of excitement and celebration, and time of setting some more goal in the new year. But will you also be celebrating the fact that in the new year you’re getting older and you’re aging?
Pursuing a dream is not easy, many ups and downs, yet we need to have persistence. In any time of the year what we need to be reminded of our dream and keep growing, keep ticking. It’s what Albert Einstein said…
It’s not that I am so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.
On growing, Dr. Henry Cloud shares three ingredients of growth in his book,Changes That Heal: How to Understand the Past to Ensure a Healthier Future. These are the three…
Grace, it’s serenity, it’s God’s grace in spite of our weaknesses, it’s about forgiving ourselves, enjoying your blunder, and even laugh over our mistake…
Truth, it’s courage, knowing the truth reveals what we need to change, getting into the corridor and taking step to change, to pursue our dream…
And the third ingredient of growth is…
Time is necessary for our growth. Henry Cloud quoted the Jesus’s parable in Bible, book of Luke 13:6-9, when He’s talking about the barren fig tree…
Leave it alone for one more year, and I’ll dig around it and fertilize it. If it bears fruit next year, fine! If not, then cut it down.
Similar to the tree owner, we want growth quickly, but there is no such thing as instant changes and instant fulfillment of our dream. We need time for our growth!
The coming new year, we are all going to be aging, each of us will be given an additional year in our age! It’s fair and the same for everyone, but how we live our life, how we live our aging is the difference!
Recently I read a book by Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life’s Greatest Lesson, teaching me a very good lessons of aging, from an old professor, Morrie Schwartz, on his final course, DYING. Here is what I learned from him about aging.
Aging is our friend to grow
If you’re always battling against getting older, you’re always going to be unhappy, because it will happen anyhow.
Don’t battle against aging, make it your friend, make every day an opportunity to be the best you can be that day, to be the happiest day of your life.
Aging is not an excuse to look back
Being older, we might be envious of others that are younger, we wish that we can be young again, and wanna hear what Morrie said about wishing to turn back the time…
You know what it reflects? Unsatisfied lives, unfulfilled lives. Lives that haven’t found meaning. Because if you’ve found meaning in your life, you do not want to go back. You want to go forward. You want to see more, do more. You can’t wait until sixty-five.
Aging is a step closer to our dream
If you stayed at twenty-two, you’d always be as ignorant as you were at twenty-two. Aging is not just decay, you know, it’s growth.
When we are growing, we should embrace aging, because we are becoming better and it’s a step closer to our dream! It’s a step closer to the time we can taste the fruit of our labor, the dream’s fulfillment.
Aging means dying to live better life
Morrie was dying when he’s saying this…
Learn how to die, and you learn how to live …… It’s more than the negative that you’re going to die, it’s also the positive that you understand you’re going to die, and that you live a better life because of it.
I’d like to share the following quote from James Dean
Dream as if you will live forever, Live as if you will die tomorrow!
Aging should not be a limitation to our dream, dream big as if it will take all of our life to achieve it. Don’t battle aging, make aging into our friend in growing, aging is the time given to us to grow, to live our life fullest and achieving our dream.
BUT aging itself is not enough, for growing we need aging + grace + truth, or aging + serenity + courage. That’s living your life fully, living your life without regret, living your life as if you’re going to die tomorrow.
So let us welcome our friend that is coming, year 2008, our aging for another year, with smile 🙂
Happy New Year everyone!