Five questions to ask your little voice

Dec 2, 2007 by


What is the little voice? It’s normally coming when you’re about to do something, it’s the voice of your doubt, your fear, and your worry. Last week I attended T. Harv Eker’s Millionaire Mind Intensive seminar in Singapore, and he taught about the little voice.

It will always be there and the choice is yours. Either a victim or a victor. With a victim attitude you will follow the little voice and blame anyone around you, your parents, your friends, devil or God that makes you so fearful. A victor, on the other hand, will feel the fear and do it anyway!
See the difference? they both feel the fear, but one is withdrawing and blaming while the other doing it anyway!

In the Millionaire Mind Intensive by Harv Eker, I also participated in the arrow breaking exercise, he encourages us to break a wooden arrow with steel-pointed tip with our throat. What we have to do is just walking toward another person holding an arrow toward the soft part in our throat, and we supposed to be able to break the arrow.

It scared me initially, but from the exercise, I learned a very good lesson, the smart way to take control of your fear. The five questions you need to ask your little voice to overcome your fear:…

1. “Why do you come out?”

T. Harv Eker defined fear clearly,

Fear is the anticipation of pain.
T. Harv Eker

It’s just an anticipation, means that something dealing with the future. We felt fear because we think that most probably it’s going to happen in the future, it might be painful, so we better anticipate the pain. See the words that I have highlighted, it all deals with possibility, not certainty. Often, what we fear is unlikely to happen, or it might happen, but the pain is not as bad as we thought before.

2. “What ‘s the worst possible outcome?”

Similar like my arrow-breaking exercise, I asked myself, what am I afraid of from the whole exercise? The worst result that can happen to me is death, hurt or handicapped for my whole life. If the worst result are not that bad, you don’t need to make any further trouble, just do it! Otherwise, carry on with the following questions:

3. “Who asks me to take this step?”

Fear can become a good indicator for us not to take a bad action and silly mistakes. Therefore you should consider carefully the reason why you need to take the risk. Check the little voice who ask you take the step!

If nobody asked you to take the step, consider whether God is willing and will be pleased with the action you take. If so, tell the little voice that the God you trusted ask us to do it.

In the arrow breaking exercise, Harv Eker is the one asking me, and I trusted him as I believe that he has done the exercise many times and he will take care the safety of all the participants, as long as I follow his instructions. The reason why he asked us to take the exercise is also for our benefit, in short, I can trust him!

4. “What will I miss if I’m NOT taking this step?”

Many times when we are faced with fear and doubt, we consider all the bad things that happen if we take the action, this time ask the other way round, what’s the bad result if we are NOT taking the step. Similarly, in the arrow breaking exercise, I asked myself, if I can’t even pass by this exercise, how will I face the challenge in my life in the future? Even more being reminded of the quote from Marianne Williamson…

….as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson (A Return To Love)

How can I liberate others from fear, if me myself surrendered to fear. It’s an easy task compared to the challenges I’ll see, so I better do it!

5. “Thank you for sharing!”

Okay, it’s wrong, the last one is not a question, but this is a powerful statement that T. Harv Eker taught in the seminar. The next time the little voice appear again in your mind, just use this statement to talk back to them, just thank them, tell them you appreciate their comments BUT don’t let them take control of your action!

Hope that this message will benefit you much!

For more inspiration about the millionaire mind set, I’d like to recommend the book from T. Harv Eker, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth.

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  1. Robert,

    Nice insights. I think your questions are very helpful to ask ourselves so that our frightened little child doesn’t run our lives. Thank you for writing this.

  2. Robert A.

    Hi Sol,
    appreciate your comments!

  3. Nice post Robert. Sometimes you also have to go with your gut whether it is telling you to do something or not. Regardless, you need to take risk in life to get ahead so we all need to take a leap of faith.

  4. Robert A.

    Hi Jason, thanks for the comments! Glad that you like the post!

  5. The last one is key for me. I say, “Thank you! And goodbye!” It works really well to dispell the fear. Thanks for the insight.

  6. Robert A.

    Hi Betty, great statement there, “Thank you and goodbye” =)
    Thanks for the comments!

  7. Its also useful to discern if the voice you hear is your ego or the observer that is the true you. Their personalities and observations differ greatly.

  8. Robert A.

    Hi Liara, yes and actually that’s not easy, discerning the our conscience and our ego/fear. The question #3 and #4 are meant to help us discerning between them. If it’s better for us not to take the step forward, then we should not make the step.

    Thanks for the comments.

  9. Robert,

    What a wonderful article! Yesterday, I was reading a book by a friend of my mom’s and it was so poignant and timely! It talks about your inner voice. Another question she suggested to ask is “is this voice coming from love or fear?”

    I find a lot of times, the voice that’s the loudest in my head is coming from fear, so having your 5 questions (4 and one statement–lol) is also right on time!

    I really believe this was an answer to something I had been asking over the past couple of days.

    I appreciate you!


  10. Robert A.

    Hi Megan, glad that this article can benefit you.

    I learned this as I experienced the arrow breaking exercise in the seminar. I imagine the arrow representing the belief that I’m not good enough. That’s how I motivated myself to break the fear!

    That motivation check can be a good indicator whether the little voice is coming from fear or love.

    Hope you can apply it as well!

    Thanks a lot for the appreciation =)

  11. Another question which can either soothe your fears or sometimes bring up more fear is What is the best thing that can happen? Some people are fearful of success.

  12. Robert A.

    Hi Patricia, thanks for sharing another useful question!
    “What’s the best can happen?”
    Thanks for the comment!

  13. Hi Robert
    You published this a while back but I saw it today while I writing a post on 12 questions that I use to help my clients create their future. I thought the questions you posted were very helpful for people.

    Thanks for sharing!


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