Lessons of difficult people
Not only from great people, take lessons from difficult people. Wherever we are, sooner or later, we’ll meet one or two difficult people, even more maybe. It’s better to take lessons from them rather than resent or complain about them.
What kind of lessons? T. Harv Eker in his book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, state it clearly…
From now on, I want you to practice re-framing other people’s negativity as a reminder of how not to be.
T. Harv Eker
Recently, I dealt with some people, big position with small heart, treated their people like tools for their own benefit. I pity them as people who are unable to trust even their own staff, fear on losing of what they have, and eventually they have to take ways to force their staffs to stay with bond, trick them, using their pay as threat to get what they want. I really have no idea, why don’t they think that happier staff, happier customer,better business, and eventually bigger profit.
So here it is, some steps to “re-frame” difficult people:
- Try to understand why they behave like that, what’s the motive behind? maybe bad experience, or anything like that.
- Give feedback if you’re in the position who is able to do it, otherwise, mmm… pity them!
- Observe the results of the actions they have chosen, for the kind of seed you planted, that’s the kind of fruit you’ll get. See their result!
And eureka!, you’ve got the lessons! One more thing that T. Harv Eker mentioned about our attitude against difficult people:
Just do it, without condemning them for how they are. For if you do begin to judge, criticize, and put them down for who they are and what they do, then you are no better than them.
T. Harv Eker